As a person, I’m two things. An Object and a Concept.
It’s important that I figure out how to be the right one at the right time.
By Object, I’m referring to the person shaped substance that makes me a physical Thing.
By Concept, I mean the unique collection of memories and dreams which make up my singular internal perception.
We are both simultaneously, but in different situations it can be good to lean into one or the other.
In this way we can balance every circumstance.
Sometimes I act as the embodiment of Concept, desperately trying to distract people from the failings of my Object.
Hoping to cover up my dimensional failure with a stunning display of my theoretical self.
Other times I’m mostly an Object.
Just a thing, devoid of deeper or intrinsic meaning.
A thoughtless mass of matter absent of Concept.
Sometimes it’s better to be an Object, sometimes it’s better to be a Concept.
My concept is proud and always wants to be visible. It doesn’t like being treated like a mere object.
It wants everybody to know how deep and interesting it is.
But in truth, until our concept becomes relevant to a situation, it can get in the way of simple interactions.
When you first enter a situation, you are an object until other people want or need to know your underlying concept.
By trying to force too much of your concept onto a situation before it’s necessary, things become more complicated as you try to integrate all of this currently needless information.
While a strong self Concept can grant you singular definition, there is power in being comfortable as an occasional Object.
While a strong Object awareness provides constant physical proof of your Existence, without linking to a distinct Conceptual self, you’re denied evolutionary potential.
We have to celebrate both equally, separately and simultaneously.
How can we be both successfully?
The trick is in picking your moments.
Looking ahead to choose and enter situations correctly.
Absent of Context, I am an Object until proven otherwise.
The sooner I can accept that, the easier it’ll be to integrate with people who don’t know me.
Becoming an Object can be difficult.
The trouble is, my Brain has difficulty not thinking of myself as a Concept.
To be an Object you have to accept yourself as a Thing in the midst of a self-important people.
Unconcerned by your lack of visible internal detail.
Crammed with preconceived self context, I often walk around unconsciously assuming I’m a fully formed Concept in the minds of oncoming strangers.
I then become shocked when I’m treated like an anonymous Object, despite my many invisible layers of Magical Wonder.
I get upset because I’m trying to be the wrong thing to them at the wrong time.
I’m trying to be a Concept when I need to be an Object first.
If I insist on being seen as a Concept, before allowing people to accept me as an Object, then I’ll complicate the introduction and inevitably feel misunderstood.
It always takes time before mutual conceptual sharing can occur.
The real issue is how relaxed and happy can I be as an Object during the phase of introduction.
How much can I allow people to process my presence, absent the complex way in which I perceive myself.
If I can predict when I’m going to be seen as an Object, then I can accept it in advance.
Allowing my form be the lens of my being.
If I walk in to an unfamiliar situation knowing this, then I can easily be unoffended by assumptive over simplification.
We need to begin every situation with a more porous perspective.
By entering every situation with the simplicity of an Object, we’ll use less effort integrating our Concept to the current circumstance.
The less initially complex our context, the easier it is to project self acceptance.
The unnecessary complexity of many adult relationships can be overly demanding.
The more simple we are at the beginning, the better will be able to adapt, and slowly show our appropriate details.
Some people derive a false sense of security by determinedly viewing others as Objects.
Those people don’t deserve either our Concept or our Object. There’s no point in trying to force your concept on to them.
There’s no point of proving your internal complexity to someone so psychologically fragile.
I don’t waste my precious, intimate specifics on people who consciously try to keep me as an object, just to make themselves feel more real.
Everybody has to deal with their own preconceptions of what being a Person is.
Everybody has to balance their levels of internal and external worth.
We all have psychological layers hidden within that will take us a lifetime to unearth and refine.
Others can’t be held responsible for maintaining my Concept or Object status.
They can’t reflect what I’m not projecting.
They can’t comprehend what they won’t perceive.
Don’t use your precious self-concept as a hammer to break into their brain.
Throughout our lives, we have to clarify our Concepts, and bring them back to simpler truths.
In this way, your Object can become confidently present.
The more complex our self concept becomes, the harder it is for us to find temporary peace as Objects.
Much like spending time with small children and puppies, it’s important to remember that interactions can be such a simple and immediate things.
If we can allow them to happen.
If your constructed self Concept doesn’t attack people, demanding recognition and respect.
If we can start simple. Peaceful. Unlabelled.
The clarity of our self esteem is what keeps us from being trapped as either a Concept or Object.
The more transparent you are, the less you’ll be trying to distract or overcompensate for feelings of Conceptual invisibility.
The better you know yourself, the less you’ll worry about being seen as a mere Object.
So, love your Object and your Concept, both separately and simultaneously.
Be the right one at the right time, especially in the midst of swirling identity politics. Celebrate both.
Don’t worry about people not immediately understanding the deeper you.
Let them learn what and who you are one piece at a time.