We’ve got to learn how to look at ourselves and like it. no matter what we look like. With one simple trick, you can make reflecting a much more enjoyable experience.
Looking at yourself can be odd and challenging.
The act of gazing at one’s own reflection, and actually enjoying it. It’s always been difficult for me.
I’m not hideous. I’m reasonable looking. But still, staring at myself has never been a vacation. There are other things I’d rather be doing.
I’ve spent most of my life biased towards looking at myself. Never really enjoying the experience of reflecting. It’s never been something that I’ve terribly looked forward to.
I’m learning to consciously reflect myself better.
To be a better version of me when I stand in front of the mirror. Rather than becoming a person who’s not enjoying looking at himself.
I don’t like looking at a person who’s not enjoying looking at himself. I mean, like, who’s he to judge me?
With effort, I’m learning how to consciously become a better reflector.
A more enjoyable person to reflect.
Relaxing. Not pinching up.
If you get uptight every time you step in front of a mirror, reflecting becomes a punishment. Every shiny surface becomes a trigger for insecurity and self judgment. Involving you laboriously exploring all of your physical flaws.
Unless you consciously find yourself attractive, reflecting yourself can be challenging. It’s easy to look down on your reflection, and to talk unkindly about it in front of your own back.Trapped behind unkind preconceptions of yourself.
Us difficult reflectors only look at ourselves when necessary. We see this begrudging face looking back at us, and we start to think that that’s how we always look.
It’s important to love your reflection.
Because you’re building your unconscious physical identity in your mind. Your residual self-image, like in The Matrix.
This is how you think about yourself when not thinking. .
Reflections don’t stand a chance, if we walk into them regretting who we are. Wishing we were someone else.
We’ve got to start making positive faces at our negative faces. Your facial expression speaks volumes about how you feel towards yourself.
We’ve got to bring a friendly face to every reflection. Otherwise we’re unnecessarily punching ourselves in it. Defeating ourselves. It’s a self-fulfilling prophecy, when you bring a frown to a reflection.
If we see someone accepting us, every time we look at our reflection, it becomes a much more positive experience. Making you feel warm every time you meet this person. You feel appreciated, as opposed to judged. As opposed to begrudged. As opposed to annoyed.
It’s not about any comparative quality of our physical appearance.
It’s about your ability to unconditionally accept yourself.
We can doll ourselves up as much as we like, but if we don’t emotionally accept ourselves, we’re always going to be trying to live up to some kind of standard we can’t find.
We need to accept ourselves whoever we are, whatever we are. We can only build from acceptance.
Bringing a positive expression to every reflection is one of the easiest ways to practice this acceptance.
You don’t necessarily have to mean it. You just need to practice showing it to yourself. You can begin self-acceptance with a forced smile. The smile doesn’t have to come from anywhere. Just give it to yourself.
Lead every reflection with one smile, and it’ll pay you back emotionally 1000 fold.
Like any investment, it’s not easy. Especially at the beginning. But once you get better at it, it becomes easier.
Eventually, you don’t even have to think about it. It becomes a reflex reaction, to smile every time you walk in front of a reflective service.
We’ve got to stop acting ugly
in front of reflective services. And I mean that emotionally. And facially. And posturally.
We choose the ugly behavior we bring to every reflection.
There are small acts of self beautification that can constantly be brought upon yourself. Merely by standing up a bit stranger., Smiling a bit more. Relaxing slightly.
Otherwise, every reflection is going to be a report card situation. And nobody wants that.
We got to get rid of this habitual reflection face,
that we bring with us every time.
It’s not about making yourself beautiful for someone else. It’s not about anyone else.
Your reflection game is all about you. It’s all about you becoming more beautiful to you. Because that’s where it’s got to begin.
You can’t wait for other people to find you beautiful before you start thinking of yourself as beautiful. It’s something you got to feel inside of yourself, on purpose
We’ve got to stop beginning each reflection session with a microscopic self-evaluation.
Start from an emotion, and then move towards your appearance. Try to see the best person you are. That we know we can be.
It’s hard to improve when you see yourself rejecting yourself. Seeing a non-accepting face at the point of reflection is a bummer.
You need to see you accepting you. The more we do, the easier it gets. The less awful faces we make it ourselves, the more acceptance we’ll unconsciously feel.
Once you can consistently accept your reflection, without rejecting it facially, it’ll be easier to move forward
Your reflection suddenly starts to become an extension of who you are.
Rather than something you regret, and try to avoid.
Every reflection is an opportunity to improve our self-acceptance.
We start to believe that our happy expression is what we normally look like.
So greet your reflection. Start to love it. Start to walk into it as a positive experience, even before you say hello.
If your face habitually brightens up upon seeing itself, we start to look forward to our reflection.
Your reflection can’t improve itself. Teach your face to face itself. Your reflection will always smile back at you.
Get in the right headset before you reflect, and you’ll always meet a more interesting person.
We have to reverse years of practice visual self negation. Give love to your reflection, no matter what it looks like. Approach it with compassion. Let go of your needs your criticism and micro fixation.
We can choose to make our reflections immediately more beautiful. By teaching ourselves how to love them. Self-acceptance is a choice, no matter what we look like.
So start bulking up your mirror game.
Get your head on straight before you face it.
You need to start seeing a relevant person every time you look.