People often say “just Be Yourself”
like that’s an easy thing to do.
It sounds simple on its face. In theory, Being Yourself only requires two things:
- A) Finding who “Yourself” is, and then
- B) Being it.
First, find Yourself. Finding who “Yourself” is requires two things:
- A) finding who you Are,
- B) finding who you are Not.
Being “Yourself” requires you to stop being who you’re Not, and start being who you Are.
You have to work to discover what makes you happy, and do that progressively more.
You’ve got to see what you’re doing that you don’t like, and find ways to stop doing that.
Before we can properly be ourselves, we have to stop actively being who we’re not.
Once we stopped being who we’re not, then it becomes easier to be who we Are.
We can allow ourselves to pursue growth related avenues. We can allow our future visions to guide us forward without being trapped by visions from the past.
When we stop using the past as our future template, we can start to see who we Are inside. We can see where the course of our genuine interests take us.
We can start living from the inside out, rather than from the outside in. Focusing on what’s happening inside you, then applying it more efficiently to the outside.
Primarily being a reflection of your internal being, rather than a reflection to external expectations.
It’s too easy for your life to be defined from the outside.
It’s hard to focus on what’s happening inside of you, when you believe that what’s happening outside is more important.
Many of us were raised to believe that other people’s perceptions of who we are we’re more important than our own.
But, if I’m not being me, then who am i?
If you’re unconsciously living from the outside in, then, you’re not being Yourself.
You’re being the reflection of somebody else in hopes of their acceptance.
You have to recognize that every moment is an extension of your independent choice,
and every choice is an exercise in being Yourself.
You have to spend your life refining the constantly shifting source of your inner happiness. Giving it a practiced procedural expression. A route to its continuing evolution.
The better you become at finding Your specificities and then integrating them into Your three-dimensional existence, the more real Your life becomes.
The more your world becomes an extension of your perceptions, instead of the other way around.
The more naturally you can be Yourself, the more pleasure you can get from every moment. The easier you can integrate with what’s actually happening.
The more you accept and engineer the causality of Your existence, the less you blame others for your emotional state.
When you don’t know how to be Yourself,
it leads to sadness and frustration. You spend your life, waiting for someone else to show you who You are. Your whole existence hinges upon somebody eventually perceiving You better than you can perceive yourself.
Nobody can tell you who you are.
It’s something you can only find by looking inside, and learning how to let it out. By willfully exposing your specificity.
You have to move past unconscious reactions, planted into your brain by others in the past.
Being yourself allows you to be present and respond to what’s actually happening. It allows you to be Now.
Not lashing out at unhappy fantasies.
You learn how to recognize that your inner development is all about You. Not about conforming to other’s demands.
Other people only control your self perception if you let them define it.
Being yourself is not an absolute. It’s a spectrum we exist upon, between Being Ourselves and Not Being Ourselves.
The idea is to just get better at being you. Get better at being Yourself than anyone else could ever be.
Being Yourself helps your Life make more sense, because it gives you a clearer context.
You’ll be more accurate to existence.
You’ll be more relevant to everything you do.
So, while it’s difficult, Being Yourself is totally worth it.