Should is a good word to stop saying, if you can.
It’s arguably useful, in small quantities, but, unrestrained, it becomes a blanket condemnation with little helpful practical process.
Saying “I SHOULD do that” is an easy way of side stepping saying “I WILL do that”. Once you see you Will do something, you’ll be forced to follow through and create a process of its accomplishment.
Saying that somebody else should do something is even less efficient.
Practically eliminating the word should from your regular vocabulary keeps you focused more upon actuation of change then condemnation of something that isn’t happening.
It’s a subtle shift.
It’s not about morally judging your usage of the word should.
It’s more about perceiving your unconscious usage.
Saying that somebody should do something not only isn’t actively practical, but it also infers a slight moral or intellectual superiority of the should-er. It’s a subconscious Flex, that lets you feel slightly better about yourself, without actually improving anything.
So, without judgment, pay attention every time you say the word should, and maybe, create a new should-less version of the sentence you are about to say.
Not judging the word should, or your usage of it. Not attacking yourself.
Just, creating an alternate reality where you don’t use the word should, as an exercise.
Keeping your statements in the moment.