I get uncomfortable accepting gifts.

For some reason.

Becoming Self-Conscious and Uncomfortable when someon

offer me a Thing.

I was worried as to the gift’s “Meaning”, my lack of “Deserving” and

inability to provide “Equal Compensation” for.

Always trying to find a Polite way to decline what was offered me.

Accepting only under protest.

Every time I refused an offer of Generosity, I’d feel a small broken

disappointment appear between us. Like I’d smacked a hand

held out to shake, or stepped on something Magical – out of

defensive fear.

Acceptance generates Trust

It’s one of those Brain things that people Trust you more after they’ve

given you something. Even if they just pass you a napkin!

It’s like through Acceptance you’ve completed a circuit in their brain

allowing them to see you in a New light

Giving a gift is like a Trust exercise because, if the gift is refused,

you run the risk of Secondary Rejection.

Anything anyone offers you in good will is a Gift. Wether it’s an Object,

a Helpful Act, or Generous Word.

Every gift given is an invitation to a greater interconnection with the giver.

Before I off-handedly refuse a Gift I don’t really want, I need to think of how I want them to feel about me.

Nowadays, if someone I care about, or want to know better offers me

a napkin I don’t need, I often Accept it anyways.

Proactively reflecting their desire for a greater Connection. Accepting the

person through their Offering and dealing with any Excess Napkin Issue

later.